Church Weddings vs Civil Ceremonies
As you prepare for what will be one of the most special days of your life, there are lots of things to think about. One of the biggest decisions to make is whether to have a church wedding ceremony or civil ceremony, and we’re here to help.
We are privileged to live in a society that celebrates many different cultures and beliefs. As such, church wedding ceremonies and civil marriages are both available options for couples. Both have their advantages, which is why it’s a very personal decision to each couple.
So, what’s the difference? Should you get married in a church or have a civil ceremony? While the answer may be easy for some, for others it will take a lot more consideration. In this blog, we’ll look at the two types of wedding ceremonies, including the similarities and differences, giving you all the information you need in order to make a decision that works for you and your partner.
What’s the difference between a church wedding and a civil ceremony?
Up until 1863, churches were the only venues in England where weddings could legally take place. Though couples might have had their wedding reception at a hired hall, venue or even their own home, the ceremony itself always took place in a church. But times have changed, and nowadays, many venues are licensed to hold civil wedding ceremonies.
The main difference between church weddings and civil ceremony weddings is the religious aspect. If you and your partner are religious, a church wedding is probably the one for you. But if you’re not religious, or just don’t want a religious ceremony, a civil ceremony may be better suited to you.
Church weddings
What is a church wedding?
A church wedding is a traditional Christian wedding ceremony that takes place in a church or other religious venue, where the marriage is officiated by a pastor or priest. This type of wedding often includes religious traditions, readings from the bible and blessings, reflecting the couple’s faith and commitment to each other. Church weddings can vary in style and length, but they typically emphasise the spiritual aspect of marriage.
Within Christianity, church weddings can vary widely by denomination. Generally, they include a ceremony in a church, where couples exchange vows and rings, often accompanied by prayers, hymns and scripture readings. Some denominations, such as Catholicism, have specific rituals such as the lighting of a unity candle or the signing of a marriage register. It should also be noted that some Christian denominations do not allow same sex marriage based on their beliefs about marriage.
Other types of religious ceremony
Muslim – the Nikah ceremony is usually held in a Mosque but can take place in various settings, depending on the couple’s preferences and cultural traditions. The ceremony typically begins with the signing of a marriage contract, accompanied by the recitation of verses from the Quran. The Nikah can vary in style and length, but it usually includes the presence of family and friends. Celebrations often extend beyond the ceremony itself, incorporating festive gatherings, feasts and various cultural rituals.
Hindu - A Hindu wedding is a religious ceremony and one of the most important of the sixteen Hindu sanskars or sacraments. It is seen, not only as the bond between two people, but also the bond between two families. Hindu marriage usually takes in the bride’s hometown and is traditionally organised by the bride’s parents. While the ceremony lasts about one‐and‐a‐half‐hours, the preparations and celebrations begin weeks before and continue afterward.
We’ve only mentioned a few religions and their wedding ceremonies, but its important to note that there are many other types of religious ceremonies around the world. Each faith has its own unique customs, rituals and significance, reflecting the diverse beliefs and practices of couples.
Pros and cons of church weddings
Pros
Religious significance
There is plenty of seating for guests
Weather is not a problem
Cons
You can’t host your wedding reception in a church
Church weddings may come with specific religious requirements
Some churches don’t allow non-parishioners to book a ceremony
Same sex couples cannot get married in certain denomination churches
Church wedding cost
In the UK, church weddings are one of the most affordable types of wedding venue behind getting married at a registry office. The legal fee will be no more than £500. This includes the vicar, the church, the marriage certificate, lighting and all admin. Additional costs include support of a verger (a church caretaker who will ensure the venue is warm, clean and tidy, help with reserving seats, handing out Order of Service and hymn books), additional heating fees, having an organist, choir or bell ringers and church flowers.
However, this doesn’t include the wedding reception, wedding breakfast, your attire, wedding rings, wedding transport, a wedding photographer and everything else to do with the wedding.
Civil ceremony weddings
What is a civil ceremony?
Simply put, a civil ceremony is a non-religious legally binding marriage. It is officiated by a legal representative or civil representative. Typically, these take place in a registry office or town hall, but couples have the freedom to marry in any approved wedding venue in the UK. In any case, you will need to register your intention to marry at the registry office at least 28 days in advance. It tends to be a more relaxed gathering, and couples have the flexibility to include readings, poems or extracts that are meaningful to them, rather than prescribed copy.
For expert advice on planning a civil wedding, check out our ultimate wedding planning guide.
Pros and cons of civil ceremony
Pros
More flexibility in terms of location, date and content
Inclusive and open to individuals of all backgrounds and beliefs
Couples have the freedom to customise the ceremony to reflect their values
Cons
May lack some of the traditional elements that church weddings offer
Lack of spiritual element
Might not have the same level of formality or grandeur as traditional weddings
Civil ceremony cost
The cost of a civil ceremony can vary widely depending on several factors, including the location, venue and any additional services you may choose. Marriage and civil partnership fees can range from £95 to £358 if you’re marrying at a registry office in Lancashire, or £383 to £518 at a registered building in Lancashire. You may choose to hold your ceremony and reception at the same venue, and you will need to pay the chosen venue as well as everything else to do with the wedding reception.
Which is right for you?
Ultimately, choosing between getting married in a church and having a civil marriage ceremony is a totally unique decision that will depend on your own priorities and preferences. Most couples will already have an idea of the sort of wedding they want. In some ways, their choice may already be determined before they begin. There are advantages and challenges with both. The most important factor when deciding between a civil marriage or a church marriage, is that the couple is happy. After all, marriage is the union of two people very much in love, wishing to pledge their unwavering allegiance to each other for the rest of their lives. The context in which this takes place should be a reflection of the couple and their values, as much as it is about religion, venue or tradition.
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